Just Get In The Saddle

Here is the question - does fear hold you back from your dreams. Really, it is a legit question. Are there things you would like to do but don’t because something nagging and ugly causes doubt? Have you ever wanted to jump out of a plane? Have you thought about diving off a bridge? Walking a high wire? Gliding across a canyon?

Well, I mentioned something like this earlier today, which has caused me to think more about being held back. It was the idea of becoming a rocket scientist. It is no different than sky diving, bungee jumping, doing acrobatics in the circus, or hand gliding. It is so easy to live in our comfortable lives, living vicariously through the media, books, or blogs. But at the end of the day, are we really happy? Have you managed to affectively put a rag in our proverbial mouth and stopped the voice of wanting more for ourselves.

Maybe, just maybe, it is time to deal with the phobias that hold us back. Identify them. Short of the money needed (which could be saved, even if it took a long while and total discipline), is it knowledge that holds us back? Seriously, think of something you have always wanted to do, but have not? Just look at it for a moment, you are not committing to it.

Now, taking a cord from my niece who is the queen of making plans and proposals for everything she wants (and does achieve) - research it. For instance, say you dreamed of joining the rodeo. Granted it is dangerous, but sometimes just getting into the shower is just as deadly. Learn about it. Read about it. Research it. Look into Wrangler National Finals Rodeo tickets and actually go to a rodeo, the big, bad, real thing, where competition is key. Talk to the fans around you. Plus it is a great excuse to go. See what it is really like and what it would really mean to join the rodeo.

Don't just pooh pooh this and settle into life with fear. Grab the reins, but grab them with a hand that is in a glove of knowledge and readiness. Maybe you will find out that it is not all that...or maybe, just maybe, it will be...

The Hair Aesthetic

Some of my recent blogging themes have been about ego. Toll and Wilber (transpersonal writers), among others, seem to be in agreement that we need to move past the ego to the next level of our evolution. That is all well and fine, but what about now? How do we begin to move forward when there is so much healing that needs to be done within? Self-esteem seems like it is at an all time low and extremely fragile.

Sure there is the nature way to make yourself feel better. Hypnosis is really good for healing a lot and changing bad habits. But there again, it can be really useful in a planned out process of feeling better about yourself. When you are having a new start, sometimes it may be helpful to look like a new you.

For example, many of us, our hair is tied into how we perceive ourselves. We spend millions trying to have the perfect hair. When it thins, often we panic. We feel horrible or sensitive about it. (By the way, I am not just preaching here, I feel very attached to mine). There are ways to feel better about your aesthetic. They may involve accessories, changing hair color, wigs, or even non surgical hair replacement. These are can be done with 100% human hair extensions (okay, maybe you cringed a bit at that, but it is natural) in a non-painful way.

I am a big believer that we all know what we need to feel better. Sometimes it takes trying things like hair extensions to see if the proverbial grass is greener on the other side. Maybe in the end it is, or maybe we find we prefer ourselves the way were. It is all about learning. It is all about healing. It is all about being true to ourselves.